There is no question that relationships change with time. The more time a
couple spends together, the more they start to take each other for granted if
they're not proactive in maintaining their relationship. The majority of couples
who stay together rate their relationships as "unsatisfactory" or "unhappy."
Some people look at this statistic and say, "There's something wrong with
commitment and long-term relationships!" However, what is needed is a deeper
understanding of the complexity and unconscious strivings present when two
people fall in love.
This workshop presents a very positive view of marriage and all intimate,
committed relationships, but one that is not well understood by couples and many
therapists. Participants will see that the source of conflict is closely related
to the unconscious aspects of the attraction to "this particular person" and
that the love connection that follows and ultimately results in conflict also
contains the potential for significant growth, passion, love and healing.
The skilled couple's therapist must be a good educator, motivator and trainer.
Participants will gain skills and tools to motivate couples to actively
participate in understanding their frustrations and in developing relationship
skills. Walk away with the knowledge to guide couples in a step-by-step manner
to learn what the sources of their struggles are and how to separate these
sources from the everyday triggers with kindness and empathy.
WHAT YOU WILL LEARN
- Learn an interview and a sharing process that will help couples transform
frustrations into moments of understanding, healing and connection
- Understand and implement a simple strategy that can change the atmosphere
of a relationship in just a few days
- Identify the four most important moments in each day for couples-and
learn how couples can use these moments effectively to benefit their
- Identify how to stop the fighting and help couples develop communication
skills and empathy for each other
- Identify the importance of helping couples from the beginning to focus on
building positive, loving interactions and not just work on the problems
- Differentiate between triggers of reactivity in the present and the
activation of old hurts and fears
- Educate couples on how brain physiology powerfully impacts their
relationship—in both positive and negative ways—and how to use this
- Help couples reframe their relationship to see the positive strivings in
- Outline and understand the important developmental stages in relationships
- Assist couples in seeing the importance of slow growth and small, doable
- Discuss how to use a simple form right away to help couples see their
unconscious contributions to relationship conflict
- Identify how to help couples separate reality-based stressors from the
activation of emotional wounds or sensitivities—and how to deal with them
- Discuss the paradox of the need to feel and give acceptance in
relationships and the need to grow and change to create the best possible
ABOUT THE PRESENTER
Gary Brainerd, PhD, LMFT, is a licensed Clinical Psychologist and
licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in California. He works primarily in
private practice in Southern California, with offices in Pasadena and Encino.
Dr. Brainerd is one of the few psychologists who has specialized in working with
couples. Eighty to 90 percent of his practice is with couples. Dr. Brainerd
received his Doctorate degree in clinical psychology from the Fuller Graduate
School of Psychology in 1976. He also has a Master of Arts in clinical
psychology from Pepperdine University. Dr. Brainerd is a certified Imago
Relationship Therapist and workshop presenter for the Institute of Imago
Relationship Therapy and is also a CEU provider in California. He frequently
presents one and two-day workshops for couples and therapists, including the
nationally known, "Getting the Love You Want" workshop. He is the founder and
administrator of the Couple's Workstation, a web membership area for couples and
therapists who work with couples. He is also the founder of the Couple's Garden,
a "smart date night" program for couples. Dr. Brainerd is a member of the
American Psychological Association, the California Psychological Association and
the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists. He served with
distinction on the national Board of the Association for Imago Relationship
Therapists, and wrote Basic Marriage Communication Training: A Program Text as
well as the Instructor's Manual.
"Dr. Gary Brainerd has the unique talent which combines clinical expertise,
technological savvy and down-to-earth communication. He will inspire, inform and
entertain you—all while sharing the most powerful information to help and heal
relationships." - Pat Love, Ed.D., MFT, renowned Author and former President of
the International Association for Marriage and Family Counseling
WHO SHOULD ATTEND
- Marriage and Family Therapists
- Psychiatric Nurse Practitioners
- Mental Health Nurses
- Professional Counselors
- Social Workers
- Pastoral Counselors
- Case Managers
- Substance Abuse Counselors
The course listed above was completed on June 3, 4, 6, 17, 18, or 19, 2009 and
is approved for 6 CEUs. Sponsor code: 00059481 Approval number: 00059481-A240 To
claim these CEUs, log into your CE Center account at www.ccmcertification.org.
Cross Country Education, LLC is accredited as a provider of continuing nursing
education by the American Nurses Credentialing Center's Commission on
This course is offered for 6 contact hours.
Cross Country Education is an approved provider by NAADAC Approved Education
Provider Program (Provider #369). This course is offered for 6 contact hours.
Cross Country Education is an approved provider with the Iowa Board Of Nursing,
approved provider #328. This course is offered for 7.2 contact hours.
Cross Country Education is approved by the American Psychological Association to
sponsor continuing education for psychologists. Cross Country Education
maintains responsibility for this program and its content. This program offers 6
CE credits for psychologists. Full attendance is required to receive credit for
psychologist, variable credit for partial attendance may not be awarded based on
the APA guidelines.
Cross Country Education is an NBCC Approved Continuing Education Provider (ACEP™)
and may offer NBCC approved clock hours for events that meet NBCC requirements.
(NBCC Provider #5904) The ACEP solely is responsible for all aspects of the
program. Six (6) contact (clock) hours are being awarded for completion of this
Cross Country Education is approved by the California Board of Registered
Nursing, Provider #CEP 13345, for 7.2 contact hours.
Cross Country Education provider #1005, is approved as a provider for social
work continuing education by the Association of Social Work Licensure Boards (ASWB),
through the Approved Continuing Education (ACE) program (approved through
1-27-12). Cross Country Education maintains responsibility for the program.
Social workers will receive 6 continuing education clock hours for participating
in this course. Licensed social workers should contact their individual state
jurisdiction to review the current continuing education requirements for
licensure renewal. Visit ASWB's website at www.aswb.org for more information.
According to the regulatory criteria established by the New Jersey Board of
Social Work Examiners, and by our compliance with that criteria, Cross Country
Education offers this program for 6 Clinical (C) hours for New Jersey Social
Workers to meet the continuing education requirements for the 2008-2010 renewal
of your New Jersey social work license/certification.
Cross Country Education is an approved provider by the Florida Board of Nursing,
provider #50-466. This course is offered for 7.2 contact hours.
Cross Country Education is approved as a provider of nurse practitioner
continuing education by the American Academy of Nurse Practitioners. Provider
number: 060313. This course is offered for 6.0 contact hours.
This seminar qualifies for 6 continuing education hours as required by many
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SEMINAR CLASS TIME:
Seminar Check-in: 7:30 AM Seminar Class 8:00 AM - 3:30 PM
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